I’ve read this blog a thousand times. Today is a day where I find myself reading it, yet again. It is so helpful to me so I’m sharing it here for you guys in case it helps you, too.
“What we do when we heal, is to finally allow ourselves to experience those feelings, process the experience and make sense of what happened, to fit the event into our narrative so that it makes sense, and we can obtain a coherent picture of who we are and how we got that way. When we do this, we convert the traumatic memory to a biographical one”.
“Bottom line, unless we allow ourselves to feel the pain and express it instead of being comforted and not going there we don’t heal. A good therapist has to be able to tolerate seeing a patient in pain. Therapy can feel and look quite sadistic.”
“Our therapists must endure being the trigger that draws this pain out and then answer a pain not of their making with a deep compassion and understanding.”