When you’ve been neglected or abused as a child, how do you turn into a gentle, caring, kind and loving individual?
Like how does that happen? Where do you learn it from? If it isn’t modelled to you from your caregivers like it’s supposed to be?
Recently both T and my boyfriend have asked me how I’ve turned out the way I am. Growing up my (on/off) father used to say “it’s a wonder you’ve turned out so normal” meaning given my background – this actually frustrates the hell out of me right now but I’m not going to speak about that now.
What do people think? How have you turned out kind and loving without parents that treated you like that?
I’m wondering, is it that I’m doing for others what I wished I had done to me? Is it the hurt inner child giving me ideas?